The euphoria and eager curiosity of children, the enthusiasm and zeal of youngsters and the energy with which they pursue their dreams, desires and goals can never be replicated at any other point of time in our lives. There are no real life responsibilities to shoulder. All we have to do is to go to school/college, study and have fun with our peers and friends.
Only when youngsters start earning do they realize how stressful it is to earn their livelihood and take care of themselves and their families. They earn meagre salaries, have to live away from home because they have to relocate to places where they finally get a job and have to live with friends/colleagues in order to live within their means.
With their new found freedom and maturity, they start viewing the world differently. The success of others motivates and compels them to work harder and push their own limits. Name, fame, money and success………they want it all and want it quickly – so that they can then venture into terrains that really interest them.
There is nothing wrong with having such lofty dreams and goals. But there are an equal number of things that we can learn by simply moving at our own pace. Instead of getting carried away by temptation and the glamour of success, fame and name – not to forget the all important factor – money – if we simply focus on doing things that we enjoy the most and let that happiness fuel our dreams and goals –we will experience a consistent high of contentment and fulfilment. We will be more balanced in our outlook and approach towards life because we have experienced the different facets while going up the ladder of success.
Too much too soon – has the strong tendency of early burn out. Almost on a daily basis we hear of youngsters being hospitalized due to a heart attack, youngsters suffering from diabetes and other lifestyle diseases.
They tend to neglect almost all other aspects of their life and are completely focused only on their jobs/businesses. And it is when they lead such imbalanced lives that the health hazards start creeping into their lives.
They are so used to the constant stress of their lives, that they do not even know how to relax anymore.
As well meaning and concerned parents and family members, when we tell them to slow down, calm down and take up yoga and meditation to unwind and relax –they simply brush aside our advice because they actually don’t know any better.
They feel yoga and meditation is:
- Only for retired people or people who are rich enough to be idle.
- Not for busy people like them who are busy earning their bread and butter, paying their bills and loans.
- A slow and passive form of exercise.
- Too time consuming and outdated!
Something that needs to be done in the early morning hours. They work long hours and sleep late at night – so this tends to put them off immediately.
Well, young fellas reading this article – let me tell you something. I believed in all those things myself. I simply loved what I was doing all through my career. My spouse and I worked hard and literally created our own little world of joy along with a decent bank balance. We have a couple of big loans to pay off – but we now have enough money to pay off the loan and simply enjoy our work life without experiencing any stress.
It is not as rosy a picture as it sounds though. My spouse -suffered from a heart attack at the age of 40 – in the middle of a road, in a taxi, in an alien city – far away from home – when he was returning to his hotel room after his training session. We know it is a sheer miracle and God’s grace alone that saved his life that day. The details of this life changing event will make us deviate from the point I am trying to make here.
We sobered up on that day – though we knew we had done nothing wrong at all. We had simply got used to work life imbalance and the stress of day to day life. We took our health for granted. And a good part of our hard earned wealth was quickly swiped away when we paid the enormous hospital bill.
Now – after learning through such bitter experiences – we have reoriented our priorities in life. We enrolled for a short meditation course and here are some things that we feel will help you out. No, we will not give you a big list of benefits of doing yoga and meditation. What we will give you is something that is simple and practical and easy to stick to on a daily basis. Three minutes to read through the rest of article. If you are able to benefit from our experience and advice – we would feel honored and blessed! J ! If you think about it and incorporate it in your life at a later stage in life – that too would be good enough for us! We expect and ask for nothing more!
- Take up simple exercises alone that you feel you can comfortably manage.
- If you feel you can manage only breathing exercises – just do so.
- Learn yoga and meditation from experts.
- If you do not have time to attend these kinds of classes regularly – speak to the yoga teacher or meditation practitioner and enrol for a short term course.
- We requested the yoga teacher to come home for a 10 day course only.
- The best piece of advice he gave us was – meditate and do pranayam (breathing exercises) alone for 10 – 12 minutes as often as you can.
- If you can manage to do it 6 days in a week, fine. If your work schedule does not permit this – even three days in a week is fine.
- In fact the heart specialist that we consulted also told us the same thing.
- Enjoy the act of meditating, walking and breathing exercises.
- Do it willingly, eagerly and consciously.
- Start the process.
- You will experience the benefits yourself.
- You will start yawning at 10 p.m and simply zoom out of the world the minute your head hits the pillow.
- The quality of your sleep is great! J !
- You will get up well before dawn – refreshed, recharged and rejuvenated.
- You will feel lively, energetic and happy.
- Meditation especially literally cleanses your emotions and thoughts.
- You will observe the difference in your own personality within a couple of weeks.
- What used to anger you or make you react earlier – will no longer be that big a deal anymore.
- You will want to conserve your energy and expend it in fruitful ventures and activities.
- The web of confusing thoughts and emotions don’t frighten you anymore.
- All those fleeting, frightening thoughts ebb away – every time you exhale during those breathing exercises.
- You will see the tenseness of your nerves and muscles relax.
- When everything slows down in your mind and heart – you will gain clarity and understand what your true purpose is for the day.
- You will learn to rise above your challenges and focus on what is most important for you as a person.
- The impact will be positive – that much I can assure you.
- It may be different for different people – but it will be positive for everyone.
- It need not be done during the early hours of the day.
- My spouse does pranayam and meditation early in the morning. I do it at around noon – after I finish all my work and before I start writing.
- He does it for around 30 minutes. I manage 11 – 13 minutes – that is about it! But right now – even this much is enough for me.
- Though we learned all the breathing exercises together – he practices the ones that he likes and enjoys and I do only the ones that I know I like and enjoy!
- There are days – sometimes a couple of weeks or more too – when I simply don’t have time to spend these 11 minutes for myself too.
- That too is fine.
- But, at the back of my mind – I know that the minute my routine returns to normal – I WANT to meditate and do my breathing exercises.
- That is more important.
No, Yoga, pranayam or meditation is not for the idle rich alone. It is for all those busy people out there – average middle class people like you and me – who are a part of the big rat race. We all have to earn our bread and butter. Jam is something that we can afford rarely. But we can do without the jam on our bread and butter. The right perspective being – we will have the time to enjoy our simple bread and delicious buttery butter and that is enough to fuel our lives with positive energy. Yoga and meditation guarantee this to all of us! 10 minutes of our time –that is all is required for us to experience this state of bliss which will bring about a semblance of balance in our work and life! Will you give it a shot – willingly? Do it and let us know how it changed you for the better!
All the best to all of you!