Is there any learning that we can glean from a chaotic or highly confusing situation? What is the learning that we all derive from our confused state of mind and our emotional turmoil? Can this learning lead to an eventual sense of balance, poise and self-control?
Does a sense of balance and self-control have the tremendous ability to mould our thoughts and emotions on a daily basis? Is that why we weave in meditation, breathing exercises and yoga into our routine life?
Dream world. Utopian world. Real world. Professional world. Personal world. Inner world. Imaginary world of books…..
Can we balance all these myriad self-created worlds with élan all the time? Can we remain in control of all these diverse facets of our lives all the time? How many things are actually in our total control?
We all grew up with pails and pails of dreams, desires, aims and ambitions. Every single one of us. All our dreams were rosy, idealistic, picture perfect and had happy endings. But somewhere along the way, we simply had to put it on the back burner of our real life.
“That is the biggest mistake you made! I am not going to repeat the same mistake that you people made!” A common enough comment that we hear in most families where there are youngsters who are just entering the initial phase of their professional lives.
Maturity does come with age and experience and a whole lot of reflective thinking and learning. The dream world is illusionary. The real world is a good whack on our shoulders.
I may not like the pay scale of my current job. I may not like the project that I am currently working on. It is most definitely not in alignment with my passion and dream. So I explicitly communicate this to my superiors.
The head of the organization has a business to take care of. He has to accept every small or big business project that comes his way and deliver top notch quality within a stringent time frame. Competition is stiff. He simply cannot afford to pick and choose his projects or turn down even a single offer.
When he is confronted with an ultimatum from his employee, he may totally understand his employee’s perspective. He may accept the fact that this youngster wants to embark on a professional learning journey. He can even sense the frustration of the young employee because his skills are not being used to the fullest at this point of time. But he cannot take up the responsibility of giving him total job satisfaction on every count.
The youngster may be learning something worthwhile at every stage with every project. Simply because the learning is not in alignment with his dreams and passions does not mean that there is no learning happening at all! All learning cannot be measured with a pay scale. He may be learning the art of communication and negotiation with each project that he is working on. He may be learning intangible values like patience from his frustration.
The youngster however is not satisfied with this. His passions fire and fuel his dreams.
The employer loses a well-trained hand but he has the privilege of selecting another candidate from a dozen applications that flood his inbox every day. Yes – that is the reality. So the employer quickly moves on.
For the employee – our dear youngster – job hopping is the next stage. He will take up his next job based on his priorities. A better pay scale is a definite factor. He has amassed a lot of learning experience from his previous job. For a while, all seems rosy because he took this decision. It was his choice.
The job scenario is different and so exciting. He is learning many new things every day. After a while, the challenges will show up. A higher pay means more responsibility, tighter time frames, top quality always, longer working hours etc.
He is learning to adapt and tune himself to this current scenario. He may be immensely satisfied with the way his career graph is moving. The work is engrossing and stimulating.
But where is the time to pursue his dreams/ desires and wishes?
Often when we have an abundance of money, we experience a time crunch.
And when we have ample time on our hands, our bank balances may not always show a healthy figure.
By the time we have created a decent bridge between time and money, we would have added a good two decades to our life span.
Now the youngster realizes the path that his parents had to follow. It is now that he respects them for qualities like compromise and sacrifice. It is now that he admires them for the way they worked and slogged to ensure that the entire family lived in comfort.
He acknowledges the fact that it takes more courage to give up our dreams than to nurture them. He understands that there is more happiness in his life because he shares an excellent rapport with his family members.
It is not as if there is a sense of deep frustration just because some of our most dear dreams remain unfulfilled. We get something more meaningful and more valuable in return. Many of these things are intangible and not measurable. They are things like joy, bliss, contentment, simplicity, collective progress etc.
Slowly, but with surer steps, our dear youngster learns the skill of weaving in a tinge of reality into all his myriad worlds. The end result is a beautiful riot of colours and there is a deep sense of satisfaction and a beautiful smile on his face.
No, he has not cast aside his dreams. It is just that he knows that there are equally worthy things to experience in life. He will happy if he is able to realize some of his dreams at a later stage in life but he will equally happy with the current status quo of his life too.
He learns to blend all his worlds. He now has got a sense of balance in his life.
The parents are happy that their youngster has slowly developed a more mature outlook towards life. They are happy that he has finally grown up! They ask for nothing more.